The Homeless on Happiness – Pt 2 – Jack

I feel extremely fortunate to have met Jack; one of the most open and charismatic people I have ever come across.

Jack has attempted suicide three times, at least one of which he blames on anti-depressants.
“SSRIs in particular” he says “send me from the most extreme highs to being completely and utterly suicidal”.
I asked him if he thinks anti-depressants are overprescribed these days.
“Definitely; on such a big scale. But it’s not the fault of the NHS because they’re under so much pressure. Appointment times are getting smaller, they’re facing cuts everywhere and so it’s much easier to prescribe Prozac or whatever than providing more time consuming, talking based approaches like CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy)”.
Jack’s main philosophy on happiness is that everything is a choice.
“We’re not just at the mercy of what happens to us, we cannot change the hand we’ve been dealt, but we can change how we see it.”
According to Jack, we all share the same potential to be happy, yet he pointed out that not everyone realises that potential.
“You just have to choose to be happy. In the same way a diabetic has a problem processing sugar, a person with depression has a problem processing negativity”.
He went on to say how “It’s all about actively searching for the bright side in any situation, no matter how small it may be, it’s always there and you have to find the silver linings for yourself in order to be happy”.
Jack is now off anti-depressants and told me that he is immeasurably happier for it. After all, the brain is a delicate thing. He also realises the importance of understanding that everybody’s brain chemistry is different and so will respond differently to any given treatment. He for example did not find CBT useful and speculated that “once you know a little bit about psychology and how it all works, it tends not to work so well”.
Things are looking up for Jack. He now has a girlfriend, has become ‘The Big Issue’s’ 2nd most productive seller and is currently taking a degree at the open university. He now feels “a reason to get up in the morning”.
Jack said that being open to the positives amid so much ugliness has meant that he has been able to stick around for long enough for his situation to improve. If he had not bothered to look for what little good he had in his life at the worst of times, Jack believes that his fourth suicide attempt would have been successful as an unsuccessful end to his pursuit of happiness.
Jack is happy, “very much so”. I believe him.

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14 thoughts on “The Homeless on Happiness – Pt 2 – Jack

  1. Thanks so much for sharing this. It is enlightening, and makes you think. I am also a three time suicide person, but I try very hard to appreciate every small wonderful thing. Happy to say I am still here.
    Thanks for the follow.

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    1. Thank you very much for taking the time to read and comment! I’m sorry to hear that you have endured such hard times. I really hope that Jack’s philosophy regarding outlook rings true with you. Life is worth it. I’m also happy that you are still here. Have a good week, GS

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  2. Thanks you for sharing. I always buy the Big Issue. Lovely people doing hard work selling mags. Actually bought two today as it’s very cold here in Canberra and when I spoke to the seller he said he only had three left to sell. I said I will buy two so once he sells the last one he can get out of the cold.

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  3. Thanks for the follow, appreciated very much.

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  4. Hi, and thanks for the follow! This was a fascinating post. Will read more🌺

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  5. Jack had some pretty profound words! He understands. Did you? I think this is an admirable quest. Thanks for following my blog.

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    1. I think so too and I’d like to think I understand his wisdom as well. No worries, it’s a great blog. Thank you for taking the time to read and comment!

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  6. Another great post. Jack made some profound point that were obviously gained from his experiences. Thank you again for sharing.

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    1. Thank you very much for reading and responding!

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  7. What a wonderful project!

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  8. This is such a positive post. Thank you for sharing Jack’s story. So true, it’s all in our attitude.

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